Avoid asking about what you did 'wrong'. Rather, ask your
colleague how they think that you could have improved your
performance on that specific task, or what they would suggest
that you might do slightly differently in the future.
We often feel quite strongly about our performance and only
'hear' what we want to hear, ignoring the rest of the feedback.
The purpose of this exercise is to get you to begin practising
the skills of external thinking, it is not to make you face
any potentially difficult situations, so choose an issue both
you and your colleague feel comfortable talking about.
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